What domestic abuse is video transcript
Updated 30 July 2021
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This program features audio interviews with service family members and visualization by actors
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What is domestic abuse?
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Throughout the UK nearly 1 million women experience at least one incident of domestic abuse each year and at least 750,000 children witness it. We don바카라 사이트檛 want to believe that such behaviour is present within our service family but domestic abuse does happen in service families, just as it does in civvy Street. In the services we do not tolerate any form of domestic abuse, and support victims whatever their gender or age, who are part of our service family.
바카라 사이트淒omestic abuse can be physical, emotional, financial, various levels of abuse really, and is often within the family or within an intimate relationship바카라 사이트�
바카라 사이트淒omestic abuse has a pattern of coercive and controlling behaviour that can happen to both men and women바카라 사이트�
바카라 사이트淚t can start off very subtly so often people don바카라 사이트檛 actually realize that there is abuse happening until it becomes much, much worse. It can include forced marriage, 바카라 사이트榟onour바카라 사이트� based crimes and other forms of abusive behaviour that are not inherently violent. Domestic abuse in the services is never a private matter, it바카라 사이트檚 everyone바카라 사이트檚 responsibility, including the chain of command, to recognize when someone is being abused and to take action.
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The process of domestic abuse is very subtle and very systematic. The victim does not realize that that abuse is actually on-going. Perpetrators often feel very sorry after an incident which makes it very difficult then for a victim to leave.
Victims often feel that the abuse is due to their behaviour and to stop it they need to behave correctly. Abusers often put them in a position where they feel they need to conform.
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